How Does A Heart Break Twice? – Chimamanda Adichie

Nigerian writer Chimamanda Adichie and her late mother Grace Ifeoma Adichie

 

 

Chimamanda’s emotional tribute to her mother, Grace Ifeoma Adichie. (November 29, 1942 – March 1, 2021)

How does a heart break twice? To still be immersed in grief, barely breathing again, and then to be plunged callously back into a sorrow you cannot even articulate. How can my mother be gone forever, and so soon after my father? My warm, loving, funny, kind, quick-witted, beautiful mother. Unconditional supporter and cheerleader of her children, fun and funny, source of delicious sarcasm, style icon, so sharply observant she never missed a thing. She made history as the first female registrar of the University of Nigeria. She was a permanent board member of the Anambra State Basic Education Board ASUBEB. On Friday she was at work, in her ASUBEB office in Awka. Her lovely assistant Mimi said she seemed a bit tired. Still, back home after work, she walked the half mile to St. Paul’s Church for Stations of the Cross. On Saturday, she spent time in Louisa’s shop, outside the gate of our house in Abba, watching the cars and people on the dusty road.

On Sunday, her driver drove her to Mass. Sunday evening she was unwell. She was taken to a private hospital in Awka. We were worried, but a few hours later, she was better, sitting up, eating rice. On the phone I told her, “We love you, Mummy, try and rest.” The next morning, the doctor sent an update to say she was doing even better. But moments later, he took the sudden bewildering decision to transfer her to the Teaching Hospital, and she was hastily moved there. He claimed the Teaching Hospital had better facilities. “Do my children know I’m being transferred?” she is said to have asked. Two hours after she arrived at the Teaching Hospital, she died. It was March 1st, my father’s birthday.

How does a heart break twice? As the days have passed my disbelief has grown. This perpetual astonishment of grief: Did it really happen? My mother is gone forever? How is it possible?

We were planning for my father’s iyipu-akwa, to mark the end of the formal mourning period, and now I cannot believe that we are planning a funeral. Again.

How does a heart break twice? You discover emotions you cannot name. There is an emotion more hollow than sorrow. There is an acceptance drenched in disbelief. Language fails. Clichés come startlingly alive: the heart is truly heavy, it is no mere metaphor. The mornings so dark you cannot get up from bed, the erratic pulse, the anger, the surprise, the tiny moments of forgetting, the regrets, the doomed attempts at escape. But the pain is waiting. The pain is inescapable. The desperate longing to turn back time, just to see her again, hear her laugh one more time, hug and kiss her. Even if just to say goodbye, even if just to have the chance to say goodbye, to say thank you for everything you did for me and everything you were to me, to say I love you, again.

The questions. Why so soon? Why like this? Has the universe not given us our own fair share of pain for now?

To have loving parents, an entire life propped up by them, and in months to have it all end, so abruptly, with such unbearable finality. O kwerom edi.

So much laughter and teasing and jokes, the easy companionship, the stories told and retold, the time spent. Time. Time makes memories. And now that is what is brutally left. The shock. The sense of sinking, of surfaces giving way, of falling through forever. The world feels wrapped in gauze. Everything is hazy and unclear.

This is how a heart breaks twice, this feeling of being utterly lost.

What Abba Kyari Told Me Before He Died – Femi Adesina

The Special Adviser to the President on Media and Publicity, Mr Femi Adesina.

 

The Special Adviser to the President on Media and Publicity, Femi Adesina, has narrated his experience with Abba Kyari, the late Chief of Staff to President Muhammadu Buhari before he died.

While recounting his last moments with Kyari via his Facebook post, Adesina recalled a dream which occurred last Thursday.

The former chief of staff died last Friday after battling COVID-19.

In his tribute, Adesina said he never knew that Kyari who appeared in an unusual manner in the dream, was there to say his final goodbye to him.

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The President’s spokesman said his last encounter with Kyari was on March 20 when President Buhari was scheduled to meet with the Chairman of the Economic Community of West African States (ECOWAS) Commission, Jean-Claude Kassi Brou.

Explaining that a seat had been designated for him next to that of Kyari, Adesina said he rose to greet the former Chief of Staff who walked in a few minutes later.

“Femi, how are you? They have said we should not shake hands again,” he responded. Rather jocularly, he extended his right foot. I touched his foot with my own, and we both laughed. Leg-shake, instead of a handshake.”

“I’m not much of a dreamer. At least, not dreams with significance. Dreams come from a multitude of business, as the Good Book says, so if a man drinks a bowl of garri before going to bed, and he dreams of swimming in a pond or river, he actually started swimming right from inside that bowl of garri,” Adesina said.

Confused by the revelation, the President’s spokesman explained that he shared his experience with a friend, Mallam Garba Mohammed.

According to him, Mohammed noted that Kyari’s appearance was to bid him farewell.

“He came to say goodbye to you, and you didn’t know it,” my friend said. I didn’t know till then that Garba Deen had the uncommon gift of interpretation of dreams. Well, I now know where to go the next time I dream,” he stated.

 

Buhari, Atiku, Tinubu Pay Tribute To Late OPC Founder

Fasehun

 

President Muhammadu Buhari; presidential candidate of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP), Abubakar Atiku, the national leader of the All Progressives Congress (APC), Bola Tinubu, among other dignitaries have condoled over the death of the founder of the Yoruba nationalist organisation, Odua Peoples Congress (OPC), Dr Frederick Fasehun.

President Buhari in a statement signed by his special adviser on Media and Publicity, Femi Adesina, recalled the prominent role Fasehun played as a member of the defunct National Democratic Coalition (NADECO) which campaigned against military rule in the country.

He prayed that Almighty God comforts all those who mourn the octogenarian and grant peace to his soul.

Also, former Vice President, Atiku in a tweet on his official Twitter handle @atiku described Fasheun as a passionate Nigerian.

APC national leader in his statement described Fasehun as a renowned pro-democracy and good governance activist who left behind fine legacies.

He added that Fasehun was a committed democrat, tested political player and Yoruba nationalist.

He also charged the Fasehun family and other associates of the late leader not to allow his fine legacies to die.

Fasehun died at the Lagos State University Teaching Hospital (LASUTH) in the early of Saturday after a brief illness was 83.

Fasehun, a medical doctor, had formed the OPC in reaction to the annulment of the June 12, 1993, presidential election. He was also a prominent member of the National Democratic Coalition (NADECO).

It was as a result of his activities aimed at overturning the annulment of the election and ensuring that Moshood Abiola was sworn in as President, Fasehun was jailed by the General Sani Abacha regime in 1996 and he remained incarcerated until 1998 after Abacha’s death.

His trials did not change his belief and his family explained in their statement that he recently took steps towards finding solutions to security challenges through his foundation, the Frederick Isiotan Fasehun Foundation (FIFF).

Leicester City Pay Emotional Tribute To Late Owner Vichai Srivaddhanaprabha

Fans react during a minute’s silence to remember the victims of the Leicester City helicopter crash which killed Leicester City Chairman Vichai Srivaddhanaprabha ahead of the English Premier League football match between Everton and Brighton and Hove Albion at Goodison Park in Liverpool, north-west England on November 3, 2018. Photo: Oli SCARFF / AFP

 

Leicester’s grief-stricken players paid an emotional tribute to Vichai Srivaddhanaprabha ahead of their Premier League clash at Cardiff on Saturday as the devastated club returned to action for the first time since their owner’s tragic death.

Thai billionaire Vichai was among five people killed when his helicopter crashed outside Leicester’s King Power Stadium following last Saturday’s match against West Ham.

The horrific accident triggered a week of mourning in Leicester and around the world of football.

Vichai was adored in Leicester after his eight-year reign peaked in 2016 when the 5,000-1 outsiders became Premier League champions in astonishing style.

With Vichai’s funeral underway on Saturday in Bangkok, Leicester headed to Cardiff for a match that served as a chance to honour their late owner and begin the healing process.

Photo: Oli SCARFF / AFP

 

Cardiff ensured Leicester’s grieving fans and players were received with sympathy and understanding.

The Bluebirds introduced the hashtag ‘TogetherForLeicester’ for the game to show unity following a tragedy that rendered the action on the pitch irrelevant.

Cardiff owner Vincent Tan paid tribute to Vichai in the matchday programme.

“This week the thoughts and prayers of Cardiff City Football Club have been with our friends at Leicester City,” the message read.

“Today, in the saddest of circumstances, we stand alongside them in memory of those lost last weekend.

“The Leicester players, ahead of that memorable title-winning season, needed to have belief instilled in them.

“It emanated from Vichai Srivaddhanaprabha. The world of football lost a true pioneer and visionary seven days ago, though one whose legacy will live forever.”

Vichai was adored in Leicester where his eight-year reign peaked in 2016 as the 5,000-1 outsiders became Premier League champions in astonishing style. Paul ELLIS / AFP

 

Sombre Leicester supporters unfurled a Thai flag saying ‘Khun Vichai Then Now and Forever Your Ambition Achieved Our Dreams’ outside the away end before the turnstiles opened.

Once inside the ground, most Leicester fans wore white T-shirts emblazoned with the slogan ‘The Boss’ and a picture of Vichai on the front, and on the back ‘Khun Vichai You Will Be Forever In Our Hearts’.

The players warmed up in similar T-shirts over their training gear.

One of the most poignant moments came when Leicester’s players turned to the Cardiff supporters a few yards along the stand from their own fans and were greeted by huge applause, reflecting the universal sympathy for the heart-broken team.

A giant Thai flag with both clubs’ crests on it and in giant lettering ‘RIP Vichai’ was passed from the home fans to the visiting supporters.

A wreath on the field ahead of kick-off, with Leicester’s entire squad and club staff linking arms on the centre circle for an impeccably observed minute’s silence before the game, while fans held their scarves aloft in tribute to their much-loved owner.

Three minutes into the match, Leicester’s fans broke into a rendition of ‘When You’re Smiling’, the anthem that sound-tracked happier days during the club’s title triumph.

AFP

Barack Obama Pays Homage To ‘Divine’ Aretha Franklin

Singer Aretha Franklin performs during a ceremony honoring the late African-American tennis player Althea Gibson at the US Open in Flushing Meadows, New York. Aretha Franklin died at the age of 76 on August 16, 2018 at her home in Detroit according to her publicist.
Don EMMERT / AFP

 

Barack Obama on Thursday paid tribute to the late “Queen of Soul” Aretha Franklin, praising her “unmatched musicianship” that he said “helped define the American experience.”

“Every time she sang, we were all graced with a glimpse of the divine,” the former US president said in a statement. “In her voice, we could feel our history, all of it and in every shade — our power and our pain, our darkness and our light, our quest for redemption and our hard-won respect. She helped us feel more connected to each other, more hopeful, more human.”

“And sometimes she helped us just forget about everything else and dance.”

AFP